As a result of these character flaws, this well-indenting individual is often the unfortunate brunt of office gossip and teasing. I admit, I often take part...he just makes it way too easy! Today however, I just feel bad for him.
I'm not a particularly large individual - even at 7 1/2 months pregnant I'm actually kind of tiny. I can say it - i work really hard at it. So when this male colleague decided to tease me at lunch today by saying "Did you, Jill, happen to be floating above the Rose Bowl on Sunday? Dressed perhaps in a grey sweatsuit with with the word 'Goodyear' on it?" I knew he was only joking. I knew that - in his head - the statement was so absurd that one would have to see the humor in it. However, I AM 7 1/2 months pregnant and I FEEL sort of large and so it took me a second to compose myself and to finally just laugh. Unfortunately, this man made this comment when the room was full of other women - older women, all of whom have had children. Judging from the so-silent-you-can-hear-a-pin-drop feeling that pervaded the room at his comment, I wanted to yell out to him "Run for it! Hurry before they get you!" But I couldn't...I was still reminding myself he was joking and patching up my own self-esteem (which remains in tact, thankyouverymuch.) And the women's ridicule against him began to flow freely, turning nastier once he fled the room.
He did come back later, when I was alone, and apologize - very sincerely I might add. So in the end, I only felt sorry for him. I'd say that someday he might learn, but can you say that for a grown man in his mid-50's? A man with two teenage daughters? Will he learn? Perhaps not.
At least he's good at apologizing.
It may just save his life one day.